Siri With the Sauce

The first time you did it, how did you feel? No, get your mind out of the gutter! I am talking about the very first time you put thought and effort into doing something for yourself. It does not have to be big to do the job. A dinner, a mani-pedi, treating yourself to a day trip on an adventure you have been wanting to go on, or even dressing up in your favorite fit. How did you feel about yourself when you did? Did you feel a sense of self love, overall well-being, and elevated confidence towards oneself? Did it carry into the following days? I hope all your answers to these questions involve an overall sense of joy. Let’s flip the script and flip the light on to the corner of the room we don’t want to look it. When you felt alone did it bring you to higher places and are you grateful for aloneness?

This Sucks! This always happens! It doesn't even matter! Why do I even try? Who cares! Does this sound like anyone you know? If this is anyone you know or words that have been leaving YOUR lips, you may want to reconstruct who you surround yourself with or what I like to call "reframe the brain." Rotten fruit is infectious. Let's be real... life sucks, but you know what sucks more? Trying to make the best of it, through every tough time, dreadful day, challenge and being engulfed by your own negative self-talk or someone else’s incapability to see the bright light even in a dark tunnel. Remember that time machine from my last blog post? Buckle up. We are going for a ride again.

Grow up (or say they said)! Do you dread Mondays? Are you mistreated and undervalued? Is your paycheck going to cause a lonesome cry in your car, regrets of wasted time, and sluggishness in the shower prior to your morning commute? Is your mental health suffering from the comments of your boss or that 100th angry client on the line? Are you pouring yourself a stiff one just to "wind down"? If any of this sounds familiar or applicable to your daily "workflow", you may want to evaluate your choice in those 40 hours. I hate to be the one to tell you this but... your yesterday is one of many and like the yesterday before, these days are not coming back. Is that 40 hours really how you want to spend the days leading up to your warm embrace with your silky casket? Time flies when you are not having fun.

"I will love you forever", we have all heard it-only for forever to turn into never, broken hearts, and broken dreams. From a woman who has had many "forever's" in her love life, friendships, family, and various settings, I am here to guide you into "forever with yourself". What does this mean? People, places, jobs, and things will ALWAYS come and go. What will not though? Forever with yourself. Your number one priority should never be another person or even your career you are passionately on time for every morning at 8am with your coffee hot in hand. Let's take a step in the time machine to last year. I made a person a priority, we can call him Justin. I gave Justin my undivided attention, pushed Justin to grow, and planned "forever" with Justin. Justin had other plans in the end, and forever fell apart like many forevers have leaving me in a state of questioning, struggle, and rebuild, though if I had laid the stronger groundwork of "forever with myself" the blow of it all would have been lighter. As I rearranged, changed, and grew, I circled back to build a stronger forever with myself. What are the steps to take to lay that groundwork? Well, how do you feel about yourself? Do you love yourself? I know I am asking quite a number of questions, though it is only when you question yourself that you are able to evaluate your own behaviors. If your answer to this is no, or I don't know, I want you to list 3 things about yourself you love and why. I'll go first. I love that no matter how dark and challenging life has gotten I never give up. What else are we supposed to do? I love that despite how disgusting people have treated me, I have always moved with genuine intentions. I love that I map out new plans when one plan falls apart. What did you come up with?